I just read a post from “The Adoption Highway” blog (here it is “Facing Difficulties with Adopted Kids“) and the final question is “Should more educational programs be available for prospective adoptive parents?” This is in response to the earlier part of her blog where she discusses behavioral issues related to older adoptive children. I have been thinking quite a bit about what if I adopt a child and they have major behavioral problems or learning disabilities and I find out about them after I have adopted. How would I deal with it? What resources would be available and why would I want to do that?
I then took a step back and realized that if I had my own biological child the same issues could arise. I think we all know of good families where one of the children is a handful. Having your own biological children doesn’t guarantee a “perfect” child. You just have to hope that whatever issues arise in your child’s life (adopted or not) that you have the strength to get through it.
I am aware that an adopted child might have more emotional issues, but no one is perfect. A child is still a child.