Logic is a rapper and he does a lot of work to educate people about suicide prevention. He has a song that’s name is the suicide prevention hotline number “1-800-273-8255”. Yup, the name of the song is the number to the suicide prevention number. How smart is that? Love it!
But that’s not why I’m writing this post. He also sells shirts and has stickers that say “It’s Okay Not to Be Okay”. I love this and it has resonated so well with me over the last 2 1/2 + years. I’m not suicidal (I promise!) but sometimes you just have bad days.
Adoption isn’t easy and there are lots of highs and lows. You’ve heard me talk about this…over and over. I do feel blessed that I can be on this journey and despite being out what is more than some people make in a single year, I’m okay. My bank account hurts, but I’m still able to eat every day, am still able to pay my mortgages and can live my life as I always have – in comfort.
But some days it’s hard. When I hear people bitch about their children, when I hear people I don’t like getting pregnant (I’m human!), when I hear people have multiple multiple multiple children (again, I’m human!), when it’s Mother’s Day (three have gone by since I started this process) and sometimes it’s because it’s a Tuesday or I just plain feel like feeling sad for myself. But you know what, it’s okay!
It’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to be fed up with the process, to have about 1,000 ideas of how the process can be simplified, to be sad and tired and angry and jealous. Not everyone is happy 100% of the time (despite what they may show to you).
If you know of someone who is adopting and they don’t want to talk about it…don’t make them. Heck, if you know of anyone having a bad day…hug them, smile at them, let them know it’s okay not to be okay.